Life Always Gets Better: Trust the Process

Key Takeaways

• The heaviness you feel today? It won’t last forever. Five years from now, you’ll be amazed at how much has changed.

• Those tiny steps you’re taking? They matter more than you think. I was once counting coins for airtime, now I’m living a life my past self wouldn’t believe.

• The “right path” isn’t one-size-fits-all. Your version of “better” might look different, and that’s okay.

(This isn’t just pep talk, it’s what I learned the hard way.)

There’s something incredibly powerful about time.

Even when life feels unbearably heavy, confusing, or stagnant, it gets better.
You just have to keep going, stay patient, and do what you’ve got to do.

I once heard a quote that said:

“Look back at yourself five years ago, you probably have the things now that you used to dream of.”

And honestly, that hit me. 

Because five years ago, I was in a very dark place.

I was a broke university student, completely unsure about life and where I was headed. I was stressed out, constantly thinking:

Do I really want to pursue a career in this field I'm studying?

(Back then, I was studying agriculture.)

Or should I take a chance on this side interest I've discovered, something I actually enjoy and might be able to scale after graduation?

(I had just started getting into writing.)

Am I only here to get a job and make money, like everyone says?

Do I follow the “safe” path or chase what truly feels right to me?

And then boom, the pandemic hit. The whole world came to a standstill. Depression was everywhere.

And for me? I was deep in it.

I remember dreaming about having just enough money to buy airtime. It was that bad. I longed for the basics: a hustle, a steady job, peace of mind, and a life that felt like mine.

I wanted to:

• Move out of my parents’ house

• Have a little financial freedom

• Be in a healthy relationship

• Know what I wanted in life

• Stop constantly surviving and actually start living

It felt so far away at the time.

Fast Forward to Now...

Five years later? My life looks completely different.

• I’ve officially moved out

• I can afford small indulgences without guilt

• I’m no longer depressed

• I have a great partner

• I have clarity (or at least a much better idea) of what I want in life

• I’ve found what makes me happy

Sure, there have been major ups and downs, but when I zoom out, I realize I’m living a version of the life I used to dream about.

And honestly?

If someone had told me back then that things would turn out this well, I would’ve thought they were playing a cruel joke.

What I Would’ve Done Differently

Looking back now, I wish I’d done a few things differently:

• I wish I hadn’t stressed so much about the future.

• I wish I had just done the things I was doing, studying, exploring my interests, without overthinking whether they’d “work out.”

• I wish I had accepted that the pandemic was out of my control and focused on what I could control.

• I wish I had trusted that things would eventually fall into place.

Because the truth is: they did.

And they probably will for you, too.

The Hard Truth? Life Will Hit You, but It Will Get Better

You might be going through something right now:

A breakup.

A job loss.

Health issues.

The death of a loved one.

Financial stress.

A quarter-life crisis.

Whatever it is, it hurts now, but it won’t hurt forever.

One day, you’ll look back and say, “I got through that.”

My best advice?

Remember that the pain, confusion, or pressure you feel today is temporary—not permanent.

Yes, it’s real.

Yes, it’s valid.

But no, it’s not forever.

If You’re in a Storm Right Now, Here’s What to Do

• If you're struggling financially but working toward a goal? Keep going. Don’t worry whether it’ll work, just take the next step. You'll come out on top eventually.

• If your heart is broken? Know that you'll heal, you'll grow, and yes, you may even love again.

• If you lost someone? Allow yourself to grieve, but trust that time will gently dull the ache.

Of course, everyone’s journey looks different. 

Some people deal with obstacles I never had to face, but wherever you are, small steps forward still matter. 

Progress isn’t always linear, and ‘better’ doesn’t mean the same for everyone.

Wrapping up…

You won’t stay where you are.

Things may not turn out exactly how you imagined, but they’ll be better than where you started.

“Time is a healer” that’s not just a cute saying. It’s the truth.

So take a deep breath.

Do what you need to do.

And trust that five years from now, you’ll look back at this moment and be proud of how far you’ve come.